My boyfriend who visits a lot wants me to give my kitten away?
He was mad at the beginning when I got the cat because he said he felt left out, and 2nd best because he did not get to be included in picking out the pet but we were broke up at the time. 1 month later he says my kitten makes him very sick, and he has developed bronchitis from his allergies. My daughter and I both have allergies and suffer from asthma, we are o.k. I dust, vacuum daily, and put the cat in another room before he comes in, purchased a 2nd hepa air purifier, use allergen reducer carpet powder, febreze allergen reducer spray, and wash the cat every day. I even offered to buy him Claritin. The cat doesn’t shed much or jump on furniture either He told me to get rid of it or he’ll have to stay away because of his health, my daughter and I love the new kitten so I refuse to give it away am I wrong?
I know you’ve had a lot of answers to your question already, but please take this to heart.
You had broken up with your boyfriend when you got the kitty–I’m sure there were reasons–now he’s back in your life, and giving you an ultimatum to choose him or the cat–after making all sorts of excuses about why he doesn’t want you to have the cat.
I guarantee two things–if you give in on this issue you and your daughter may be at great risk with this man–because it won’t stop there. This kind of unreasonable behavior is typical of an abusive person–it starts small and escalates to the point that nothing you do can please him-no matter how hard you try–and then the punishments will start. I can’t believe that you want that. As much care as you take to keep your home livable for your daughter and yourself so that you can enjoy your kitty, I think you know the answer.
#2 If you give in and get rid of the kitty to satisfy this person you are sending a real and clear message to your daughter that she and her needs, both emotional and physical are not as important to you as they should be and she will have a hard time trusting you or him. I think you know the answer.
People who make these demands, who sulk or act up because they think you have not given them a high enough priority are the same people who will try to isolate you, run your friends off, make you completely dependent on them or their judgment , begin to manage your child and will keep upping the ante. Put a lot of space between yourself and this man. I think you know the answer.
I wish you and your daughter the very best!
Do NOT give up your daughter’s kitten to please him… heck NO!, he’s only a bf, he’s not your husband, he sounds very controlling and a whimp, "oh, but I wasn’t there to be included, and waah waah waah" I hope you choose the kitten over him…….. don’t let him upset your daughter, that is her kitten, he sounds like a whimpy whimp……..
It sounds to me like your boyfriend is having more of a temper tantrum than an allergic reaction! You and your daughter both suffer from the allergies and asthma so you are being very conscientious about your pet. I would say "Adios" to boyfriend now if this is how he is going to react – pouting and issuing ultimatums – as here is a glimpse of the future. If he needs to control something as small as having a kitten in your own home, what else does he have in store for you and your daughter? It is your home, your pet and your decision. Get rid of the boyfriend!!
which one do you love the most? honestly?
then you should give up the other one?!
with the best wishes?!
bye
You are correct. Keep the kitten and get rid of the boyfriend. He is very controlling and a bully to even ask you to get rid of the kitten because he feels second best. Get rid of him now. He is trouble and will make your life miserable. Do you realize that the kitten is the first thing he will change. Then he will want you to lose 10 pounds, or change haircolor to please him, or go back to college, or get a better job, etc. It is none of his business that you have the kitten. Dump him.
Since he does not live in your house, keep the cat. He has NO right to tell you to get rid of the cat.
He sounds really selfish and hates it when he’s not in control. If you and your daughter love your pet, why should you get rid of it. Your kitten and daughter would be heartbroken if you gave it away.
Note: Why do you wash your kitten everyday? Cats don’t like water, and hate being washed/showered. They are very clean animals so you shouldn’t be doing this – it seems a little cruel to put the animal through all that stress every day.
You & your daughter LIVE together. You both love the cat. Your boyfriend VISITS a lot. You & your daughter are the most important things in your lives, what makes you both happy is what is most important. Tell the boyfriend to grow up & buy his own Claritin. He is replaceable. You, your daughter, & happiness for you both isn’t. Control freaks are a dime a dozen, real men aren’t. Make the right choice.
Boyfriends come and go. Kittys are forever
Keep the cat, but explain your reasons for doing so. He has a choice, you can meet him elsewhere than your house if it is too hard for him to be around the cat. You give in on the cat issue, he’ll be bossing you around in no time at all. Suzi
I think maybe you should give the cat up but to one of your friends for 2 weeks or so that way you can see if he’s really allergic or just lying. If he is lying then you can always get your cat back
your not wrong at all! you see, if you love your pet so much and your daughter does to you dont want her heart to break do you?.By me i love ALL Animals.Dont give away your kitten!!! Your kitten is a good thing especially for your daughter. How old is she by the way?helping take care of that kitten is good practice for when she is older.And besides cant you get a new boyfriend?? he isnt the only 1 out there 4 you.Mybe he isnt the right type for you.And 1 more thing.My mom got a divorce bc my dad wanted 2 control everybody and what they did.My mom says that my brother who is 18 is just like him.Dump your boyfriend ASAP he is a bad influince 4 your daughter!!!
If i were you i would call this boy and tell him:its over.Im not going to let you control my life!